Sex is an integral part of life of any adult person of childbearing or even older age. It helps people to support their sexual health, get positive emotions and feelings. So why some people lack sex drive? The reasons may be various: starting with life difficulties and ending with physical or emotional problems. Let’s have a look at some common causes of low sex drive.
If work and household chores take up most of your time and energy, you would rather choose a warm bed and sound sleep than sex, isn’t it? Excessive tiredness may kill interest in sex even in young people, let alone those who are over 40.
Don’t forget to have a rest. Don’t sit up late at night and find at least an hour a day for yourself. It will give you an energy boost and hence, raise your sexual desire.
Troubles with sleep
In many cases, the reason for a lack of sex drive is in poor sleep quality or very short night rest. It is especially actual for men as the bulk of testosterone (a hormone, which is responsible for sex drive in males) is secreted during deep phases of sleep. If a man suffers from sleep apnea or insomnia, the deep sleep phase is too short or even absent. Hence, the levels of testosterone are lower than the norm and so is the sex drive.
Good mood is one of the basics for a regular and bright sexual life. People suffering from depression lose interest in everything they used to like, including sex. The same problem may affect individuals with a low self-esteem and those who lack confidence.
Various groups of support may help you to increase your self-confidence and feel free in your thoughts and desires. A depressive state should be supervised by a medical professional. Psychotherapy and pills will improve your mental health and restore your sexual desire.
Sexual health issues
A number of medical conditions may influence your sexual life and libido in particular. Some women feel pain during the intercourse or cannot reach an orgasm. Hence, sex for them is not associated with anything pleasant and they feel no need to have it. Another problem, which is met in 2 out of 1000 females is vaginismus – an ailment, which makes penetration painful or impossible because of involuntary vaginal muscles contraction. In addition, women, who gave birth to a child or entered the period of menopause may have a vaginal dryness, which may also affect female libido.
As for men, they may also suffer from sexual dysfunction, which doesn’t give them a possibility to enjoy sex and feel sexual desire. Common male intimate troubles are erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. Both problems may create not only physical but also a psychological barrier to having normal intimate relations.
The influence of hormones
Changes in the levels of estrogen in women may significantly diminish their interest in sex. Furthermore, hormonal imbalance may become the cause of a headache and mood changes, which only contribute to low libido. Such problems are common for menopausal women and those, who are pregnant.
Underlying health conditions
Some ailments not connected with sex organs may also reduce sexual desire in both men and women. Underactive thyroid gland, kidney issues, cancer, diabetes, cardiovascular afflictions, and these are not all medical conditions, which may kill your libido.
Problems with a partner
People feel sexual desire when they are attracted to their partner. When they lose interest in each other passion disappears too. Consequently, they do not want to have sex with a particular person. Frequent quarrels and misunderstandings in a family may also affect the sex drive.